the way we are, why are we?

(originally written 10/15/09)

When you're in public do you ever notice other peoples parenting skills? Notice when the mom or dad is yelling at their kid(s) or explaining to their kid(s) about their behavior? Whenever I'm working sometimes I really take notice with parenting skills. There was a mother who had her (maybe)4yr old daughter with her and we could hear some other mother calling out for her child and the mothers daughter was took a couple steps away from her and the mother told her to stand by herand she said to her daughter "what do we call it when the child walks away from their parents" and the daughter says "getting lost" and her mother said "that's right and it's not good when children walk away from their parents" I thought that was good. and there was a different time when a mother came up with her children and i scanned her items and then her son said something about not wanting one of the toys i scanned and his mom was saying "well what do you want? stop putzing(sp) around and tell me what you want" he didn't say anything but turned around and she was starting to get loud when she was talking to him. I felt bad for her child because i know that when i was younger i did the same thing when i got yelled at. i clammed up. and watching some the parents in the store makes me wonder if one day i would be the explaining type of mom or a yeller. For now though i don't want kids but if i did get pregnant i wonder how i'd handle my emotions and frustrations with them. I know that i would never abuse them. and i wonder why some parents are just....more chill than others. i'm sure it's how they grew up and how they were taught. but it's not always like that because i know some people who grew up terribly but ended up being awesome parents. maybe some parents love their kids more than others. i don't know. but sometimes it seems like it.